How to get the best of you…

How can I get the best of me? This is a question I keep asking myself daily. I feel guilty when I have no reasonable answer to this. In fact, I go online to search “how to get the best of me”. All answers are not satisfying as they’re complicating issues more and more. I was going to give up not until I discovered some things which I’ll like to share with you here;

1.  You  have to see the best in you:  we all have a special gift called “life”. And life itself is the greatest gift we can have. We are here to make the best from life and use our gift for greater purpose. And everyone of us in life have best in us. We often admire others hence, making them best but we forget we have the best in us too. Have you seen the best in you yet? If not, sit and think deeply. Look beyond and see above. I’m sure you’ll see something special about you. Thus, making you the best in what you do. 

2. You have to see yourself as best:  I was guilty of this many years ago. To be precised, I just got the real picture this year. I wanted to become a good writer but seeing other writers write, I lose faith in myself. I am always seeing them as best and seeing myself as a mediocre. I see my articles as irrelevant and see myself as an amateur. Although, I wasn’t so good, yet I should see myself as best in what I do. When you see yourself as best, you feel superior and with that you can continue to give your all in that your special field. Look at yourself and stop looking at others. There’s a hero in you that you have to see. Don’t be ignorant, don’t be foolish. You’re the best and you should act like one. Seeing yourself as best isn’t pride but ego that can make you go higher than you ever imagined.

3. Give your all today: your tomorrow starts from today. Tomorrow isn’t the best way to getting the best of you, it’s today. You have to give your all today and make sure you work towards getting the best. One of those things I say back then was that I am still young to become a writer. If I had known, I would have started early and give my all. Getting the best of you is simply giving your all today. Don’t procrastinate. Don’t be lazy. Lazy people will never get the best of them. Start now, and your later will always thank you.

4. Love who you are: maybe you’ve been guilty of this. I was also ignorant of this too. I loved others but I hated myself. I thought true beauty is the physical appearance not knowing true beauty is what we have inside of us. Many a times, I’ll keep wondering why God created me without a gift or passion. But I later realized God has created me with something special which I never realized because I never loved who I was. When you start to love you, you start to get the best of you. Loving others is so easy but loving ourselves is a lot of hard work to us. We can love ourselves and start seeing the best we have in us. Call yourself good names like; I’m a success, I’m a winner, I’m the best, I love myself etc. I’m sure you’ll start realizing the best in you.

5. Live your life: we all have our lives to live. I live my life and you live yours. Many are living the life of others and this has greater negative effects on them. Because your friend is a poet doesn’t mean you’ll become one. Because you love the life as a musician doesn’t mean you’ll become one. Because footballers earn a lot doesn’t mean you’ll become a footballer too. You don’t have to be carried away by what others do. You have to see yourself and live your life. You have to understand that you run a race yourself. You have to be on your lane and not others’. Live your life and not others’. You’re the original version of you, you shouldn’t become someone else’s photocopy.

6. Get the best in others:  we don’t have to be so selfish. We have to get the best in others too. Many people need help and by helping them we are helping ourselves. The help you render today will totally save your tomorrow from disasters. It’s a must to help others get the best. Go out and make others happy. Be blessing to someone and you’ll be blessed by many.

7. Lean on God: this is something I can testify. Leaning on God is actually the best way to getting the best. Human wisdom is foolish compared to God’s. A man who God teaches is a man of great skills and he’ll always be the best. Are you working alone and not with God? I’ll like you to trace back your steps to God and let him be the forerunner of your life. With God, the best is certained and the best in you will be unravelled. Without God’s help, I wouldn’t have seen the best in me.

I’ll be glad if you got something special from this. I love you. 

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10 motivational facts specially for you.

I was inspired to write this. I hope someone gets inspired and motivated. Happy reading.😃💟👍

1. You’re alive for a reason. Do not kill yourself for any reason. There are reasons for every season. So, reason well…’s your season.

2. Relax…’ll graduate. You’ll get a job. You’ll become an adult. You’ll find someone who loves you. Don’t forget that you’ve an entire life and it takes time. Take things easy. All you’re facing now is called ups and downs of life. Your ups and downs should take you up and not down.

If Christ is in you and you’re in Christ, you have everything. Jesus Christ will be your all in all.

3. Time decides who you meet in life. Your heart decides who you need in life. Your eyes decides who you want in life. Your behaviour decides who will stay in your life. You decide who you’ll be in life. God decides who you are in life.

4The best of a man is when he sees the best in himself and works toward achieving the best. The worst of a man is when he sees the best in himself but couldn’t make it a reality.

5. Sometimes life challenges makes the strongent become the weakest. We only have to be strong. 

When a door closes another opens. We only have to be optimistic.

6. When you focus on God instead of your problems. Then you’re already more than a conqueror.

7. Someone special makes you special. Someone special takes you special.

Someone special treats you special.

Someone special handles you special.

Someone special loves you special.

Someone special calls you special.

Someone special name you special.

When you have someone special in your life,don’t ruin it by making stupid decisions.

8. Fear is a major factor that stops man’s achievement and happiness.

Faith is a major factor that restores man’s achievements and happiness. The two ‘Fs’ depend on us. It’s a choice thing.

9. The most important thing about life is life itself. It’s either you fail life or pass life.

Don’t let things get you down. You’ve got many reasons to look up to God and say thanks to him.

10. Not how hard you pray but how hard you believe. Not how many hours of prayers but how many hours of faith.

Never put God last and you’ll never be last.
Jesus isn’t the only son of God, I am also. 


I’m glad you’ve been following this topic. We shall continue from where we stopped.

Illustrations on the wrapper and gift

3. The quantity of the wrapper doesn’t determine the quality of the gift. Also, the quantity of the gift doesn’t determine its quality. Honestly, we should know that the weight or height of the gift doesn’t determine how valuable it is. Imagine someone giving you a wrapped gift which is heighty and weighty but after removing the wraps you saw a gift which isn’t valuable. Also, imagine someone giving you a wrapped gift which is small and light but after removing the wraps you saw a valuable gift worth millions of dollars. I’m sure by now you should understand that it doesn’t matter your height, weight, stature, skin color, tribe, country or anything, there’s beauty in you and you are valuable. 
Because you’re physically,mentally or educably retarded doesn’t mean you’re not valuable. You have a special beauty in you that can’t be seen unless the wrap is removed. You have to remove that thought of physical challenge and develop the beauty in you. You don’t have to bother or be disturbed by what others say about you. Remember, people’s opinions of you shouldn’t become your reality. There’s something  valuable in you, make sure you see that and let it be revealed.
Confidence and intelligence will never stop being beautiful. If you can draw, do it. If you can sing, do it. If you can write creatively, do it. If you can talk or speak, do it rightly. If you can Dance, do it. If you can bake well, do it. Is there anything special you can do? Please do it. Just make sure they are done in the right ways and accordingly. Make sure God is happy about it. Be confident on what you do. You’re intelligent, make use of it rightly. The wrapper doesn’t matter in as much the gift is valuable enough. Your physical challenges shouldn’t stop the valuable aspect of you. You’re to challenge your challenges and get your beauty once and for all. 

Trust me,there’s a beautiful you inside of you. Don’t kill the beauty in you.
4. The gift is not useful when not used or when misused. The beauty of a gift is in its proper usage. I’ll explain this in the next part.
Thanks reading this. I hope you’ll learn something from this.  We shall continue in the 4th part.

To be continued…


There’s this strong will in me.

 I believe I can achieve my goals in as much we have others who achieved theirs. 

I believe I can touch the sky and it doesn’t matter my height.

I believe I can love passionately and also make people love themselves.

I believe I can cater for the less privileges and make them smile.

I believe I’ll be great some day and make other people great by mentoring them.

I believe some days the whites won’t see the blacks as inferior or bad people again.

I believe I can get to places which people think will be difficult to get.

I believe I can break records which in the real sense can be humanly impossible.

I believe I can make impact in this perverse generation and get the best for my world.

I believe I can change the status of my family and make a good reputation anywhere I go.

I believe I’ll still travel to US for my university education and make my nation and continent proud.

I believe I’ll become one of the best youngest bloggers who changed their world through their blog.

I believe I will someday meet someone who will make my dreams come true.

I believe I can.


Yeah, it was like yesterday when I started this blog. People thought I will never achieve anything because of my poor background status.

I was afraid having a blog because I’ve got no laptop and most of the time I don’t have data. But I knew these will never stop me. I started this even when it seems odd to some but here I am today with 100 followers.

Thank you friends, dads and mums. without you my dreams will never be achieved. You’re making me happy and I feel special in what I love doing….that is, writing to change the world. I deeply appreciate you all and I’m sure we’ll enjoy more from our writings. I love you all.



We are going further on this topic today. We’ve seen the meaning of beauty and how a gift and wrapper represent inner and outer beauty respectively. 
We are going to know if outer beauty isn’t necessary at all. 

Explanations on the gift and wrapper

2. I will never marry a lady who isn’t beautiful or well kept outwardly. I will never move close to a smelly, haggard and rough lady. Outer beauty isn’t necessarily the face but your complete physical self. You can say this is wrong but I surely know what I meant. Imagine seeing the wrapper of your gift so dirty. I’m sure you will be reluctant accepting the gift. A normal person will never wrap a good gift with a dirty wrapper. It’s an eyesore!
Unfortunately, I’ve seen many young people who look unkept outwardly and unconcerned about there physical body. Many ladies are dirty, hence making them look ugly and will never bother. They keep saying, “the real beauty of a woman is her heart and not her body”. And this has made many old and without a real man for marriage. They keep tarrying in the singles zone. Your outer beauty is very important. You have to be physically fit, neat and sound. You have to dress well so as to be addressed well. But outer beauty is a hill of beans if your inner beauty isn’t okay. The gift will not be enticing if the wrapper isn’t. The wrapper is the first conviction about the gift. Therefore, make sure you’re good looking outwardly. When I say good looking, I don’t mean you should go and bleach or go extra miles for plastic surgeries. Trust me, you’re already beautiful. You only need to take care of yourself and look responsible. With that, your beauty shines like a morning star.

If you refuse to work on your outward beauty
🔰 it might be difficult to marry a responsible man.

🔰 people will never listen to you even if you have a good heart.

🔰 you will be addressed wrongly.

🔰 responsible people will never have things in common with you.

🔰 your inward beauty is meaningless.

3. The quantity of the wrapper can never determine the quality of the gift. Also, the quantity of the gift can never determine its quality.

I’ll explain this in the next part. Stay tuned.

Glad you’ve read this. To be continued….
Please share your views in the comment box. Thanks.



      Have you ever received a gift that was wrapped beautifully? Before you received the gift do you have any idea what it was? Were you concerned about the beautiful wrapper or the gift inside the wrapper? I guess we have to learn something today. We’ve been talking about outward beauty and inner beauty. We’ve been mixing some things and lots of people have been writing different articles. Mine isn’t different also but might help someone.

    Some years back I wondered why I was not cute like some other guys. Most times back then, I hated myself. I felt inferior and sometimes unsecured. I appreciated others’ beauty and forgot mine. I had no clue what beauty was. I thought beauty was our physical self and that face we have. I thought beauty is how sexy the face looks or how muscular we are. I thought beauty is all about height,weight,complexion, age,body types e.t.c. Later, I realised how ignorant and foolish I was.

What is beauty?

      According to the Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary, beauty is the quality of being pleasing to the senses or to the mind. It’s also a pleasing feature. 

This definitions ain’t pointing at the physical self or outward appearances alone. They also show and Point the mind.

Illustrations of the wrapper and gift
Why are you more concerned about your make ups or make overs than your life? Some of us are more concerned about the outward beauty forgetting the inner beauty, vice versa. Let’s give points.
1. The wrapper is our outward beauty while the gift is our inner beauty. The wrapper might be pleasing but we are less concerned about that. We are more concerned about the gift in the wrapper.  Therefore, the outward beauty is the wrapper which shouldn’t be our focus while the gift is our inner beauty which should be our priority. Very soon that physical beauty will be useless as the wrapper after the gift has been revealed.
But am I saying physical beauty isn’t necessary or unimportant? Well, let’s find that out in the 2nd part.

To be continued…